The Truth About Chastity: A Tease and Denial Handbook

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Many women complain that chastity devices are fun when there is sex involved, such as when I am meeting my date and my husband is caged. It gets into both of our heads and creates a fun dynamic. But what about the rest of the week which is filled with work and commitments? We had some rules to remind ourselves of his role. For instance, I dressed first for work and he remained naked until I left the house. This gave him time to make my coffee, make the bed and do other household chores. The presence of the cage, made this routine a little more lively. He wore the cage to work, the gym, and walking the dog.

What we wear influences how we act. Wearing clothes that suit us and compliment our style often results in increased levels of confidence and drive. On the other hand, wearing ill-fitting clothes, be it too tight or too loose or clothes that don’t suit the occasion, such as wearing a T-shirt to a wedding, tend to make us shy away from socializing and enforce a negative self-image. Like everything that we wear, chastity belts have a unique influence on our psyche. The question is, what is that influence specifically, and how does it manifest itself? I am a mid-30s male. After a few months of experimentation, I started wearing a chastity device 24/7 about 2 weeks ago. I am able to handle all activities in the day time very comfortably. However, my nocturnal erections are a bit uncomfortable and I wake up 2 times to adjust the device and take a short walk to let it subside. I have three very specific questions about nocturnal erections and one general question about abstention: A true chastity experience usually involves a decision-maker and a chaste person. The decision-maker (or the keyholder) holds the key to the other person’s pleasure, gratification, and release. They can do so metaphorically or literally if the chaste person is in a chastity device. In the world of orgasm control, where, when and whether you want your sub to orgasm or not is completely up to you. It’s great fun to try over long distance, or just to see how far you can push your sub. Chastity devices are an ideal way for partners to tease each other. What’s more, they achieve arousal and orgasm denial, which is the main goal of chastity.The reason for wearing a chastity belt is fairly simple; it helps you remain celibate. But that isn’t what I am interested in. I want to know why somebody would wear a chastity belt. What motivates them to wear it. And do the psychological effects of wearing one differ depending on your reasoning? From what I’ve been able to gather, there are three reasons why people would choose to wear a chastity belt. Firstly, they desire to remain celibate. Secondly, they are forced to as a form of atonement. And thirdly, they wish to keep themselves from committing adultery. Once you are in an ideal state and ready to attach the device, treat lubricant as your new best friend! Ideally use a water based lube that won’t interfere with the material of your device (silicone lube should not be used with silicone devices) and apply liberally to your genitals (shaft and testicles), you can also apply a small amount to the inside of the device but be aware you may then need to wear gloves to allow some friction to keep hold of the device during the next steps! Steer clear of any “tingle” or “heat” type novelty lubes and consider what will be best for your long-term comfort. 4. The base ring Also, remember that consent is key and there are several health issues to be aware of – if it needs to come off, it needs to come off. Edging/tease and denial I believe having a “lifestyle” keyholder, a platonic friend or ex-girlfriend, is the best option, and not only because it’s free. I think it is just a better experience, closer to what men in relationships enjoy from having a wife or partner as their keyholder. But, if that’s not an option for you, there are professional ladies out there willing to hold your keys for a fee. This is a risky move, of course. However, even with all the negotiations, kink is something that you have to try out for yourself to be able to judge whether you’re a fan or not. Just because one idea seems like a winner in theory, it doesn’t mean you’ll like it when you play it out and vice versa.

Mistress Thorne has created this simple guide with images to talk you through each stage of the process. 1. Safety precautions Erotic sexual denial is sometimes used by a dominant to increase their control over a submissive. Because the submissive is kept in a state of sexual need and vulnerability, they are more likely to take a compliant stance with the dominant; failure to comply can result in additional teasing or an extended period of denial, among other punishments. Chastity cages are typically exactly the name suggests: a more-or-less penis-shaped cage, made form plastic or metal, that completely encloses his penis so he can’t stimulate it enough to have an orgasm. Unlike a chastity belt, a cage is usually held in place by a ring that goes around the scrotum and base of the penis behind the testicles themselves. Erotic humiliation can also help enforce the dominant's position in the relationship. Orgasm denial is often accompanied by other forms of erotic humiliation such as forcing the submissive to do chores, crossdress, or consume bodily fluids. These can be used as punishments, as conditions for release, or simply at the discretion of the dominant.

The psychological effects of wearing a chastity belt explained

Chastity isn’t just about abstaining from sex. That would be too easy and not that kinky, right? The true spirit of chastity lifestyle lies in the power exchange (naturally) and the fact that the keyholder has all of it. So chastity enthusiasts aren’t really abstaining from sex and sexual gratification — it is forbidden to them. He had to wear the device anytime that I was going on a date regardless of what his key holder allowed. I made it explicit that I would not promise that I would keep his secret from my dates. However, at first I did keep the device secret. That would change later.